You make decisions together wisely.
That is to say, Runkel doesn’t need his wife — and his wife doesn’t need him — to be a fully functioning person. When he hears people tell couples, “You are supposed to meet another’s needs,” he said, “that is the most horrific piece of advice I can imagine.”
Instead, Runkel said, you should want your partner, and vice versa.
It might sound like semantics — but this mental reframing allows you to take a much more reasonable approach to any romantic relationship.
It means, Runkel said, that you always need to be working on yourself — first to make sure you’re a happy and healthy individual, and second to make sure you’re a desirable partner.
“When was the last time you actually respected a needy person, much less found them attractive?” Runkel said.
What’s more, Runkel said, there will be times when you and your partner can’t fully meet each other’s needs. If one of you gets sick, for example, the other can only do their best at being caring and supportive.
Read more at http://www.businessinsider.sg/worst-piece-of-marriage-advice-2017-5/#Pe4FrMsQQThMyK2B.99
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